post #3 Friendship

 

Relationships is difficulty to my understanding, to everyone, but what about a friendship? Is that easy? I am one to have a small circle of friends that i truly cherish and  love unconditionally. Not every friendship are the same or turns out the same, though. Having a turning point in a friendship is common like for example that friendship turns into a relationship, it ending, distance, closeness well you should get what i am saying. No friendship is exactly the same similarly a relationship, never exactly the same because in each detail of a relationship cannot be the same to another. One needs to understand that to really enjoy a friendship or any relationship in that matter. Here i am going to try explain different friendship matters and how to deal with them.

Have you ever had a friendship where...

So, you made a friend possible good looking or not and all of a sudden it changes. Either you wanted it to change or they did, but there's a change occurring. What do you do? This really depends on you; since your the one dealing with it. I'll break it down to your perspective and to the friends perspective to really grasp the situation.
First, i will start will your perspective in this situation. Well, You're in a friendship that obviously changes you want to change for whatever reason and want the friend to do the same and accept the change, but you don't want it to end because if you wanted it to end you would've created a noticeable space between the friendship and end right there or explain why the friendship isn't working. So, its in a turning point you change the lane of the friendship to whatever it is you wanting it to go to. So what do you do? Well, it honestly depends on what you're shooting for. You fell for them or something happened and its in great need changes. There is many ways you could go with this you can go with the flow and see if the works with the friend or tell it like it is which i prefer in almost all situations because it will clear any and all misconceptions. If neither of those advice or options and you really want to deal with something heads on well you should lean into what you want and really bring it up as an idea that they may not no of and see how that works. Its like you're getting your answer, but not directly. I find this a simple and constructive idea because a few days ago i was talking to a friend who made it so obvious that he has feelings for me. As someone who can usually see the obvious i knew that i have to make up my mind in secret. He made many hints that we should be in a relationship like "We'd be perfect couple, if were ever gone out" and "If i liked you, i wouldn't tell you because you'd friend zone me." These aren't the best example, but it's real examples. You need to be very observant towards the changes that occurring because if you aren't you are going to miss the hints that they leave you. Its really going to be a challenging, but if you really want something shouldn't you go out and get it?
So, now the friends point of view. You're friend likes you and you don't know what to do. Usually the best relationships are those that were friendships first than grew into a relationship. If the friendship is good than i think you should give them a chance, but if you don't want to than your going to have to be really careful in letting them down. You possibly don't want to lose them so you must tell them the nicest way possible that you don't want that and you may have feelings for someone else or want to be single or you just don't see them that way. You may have heard of these because they are classics, but there classics for a reason just need to let them down gentle and go back  to your life. Some times if the feelings were or are to strong for them they cannot be able to stay around you so, you'd have to give them time to cope it depends on them if they want to still be your friend or not. Sorry, if thats not what you want to hear: i am just stating it as it is you cant have it all.

Is Your Friendship Ending:

I'm sure you noticed your friendship is ending and it was obviously a pretty great friendship since you're here looking for advice; well all i can really say is the best advice here is to talk about it. Something may be going out and they aren't ready to talk about it, they may just found feelings for you and they are just trying to shake it off or maybe you've done something or they heard something that you might've done there is so many things all you could do is just raise the issue and talk about it. They'll eventually tell you and if not i guess the problem was insignificant or the friendship was to them. Sometimes all you can do is just accept it and move on. Maybe, they'd come back and all goes well, but for now just ask.


I can fill this post with as much problems and solutions, but i don't want this post to be endless sensation of words and ideas, if you have any problems you'd like to have an answer to please comment and i will be more than happy to help.